Blogtober - Day 9 - On Turning 31

So predictably I've missed a couple of days of Blogtober but in my defence it has been my birthday weekend and I've spent most of it either busy, drunk or hungover. So blogging wasn't at the forefront of my mind (my bad).

Turning 31 wasn't as painful as I expected. I still remember looking at people in their thirties when I was a teenager and thinking how mature and together they seemed. If your twenties are for dicking about and getting drunk then your thirties are the decade in which you surely should be settling down and getting old gracefully, right? Hasn't really worked out that way for me but there's still time!

I started off my weekend with a post-school run buffet breakfast with my mum tribe who got me some amazing gifts and, unbeknownst to me, ordered prosecco with breakfast! Afterwards I went to get my hair pinked and that evening had a lovely meal out with Jack, my parents and grandparents. On Saturday Jack went to his dads and so I mooched into town where I met a friend for lunch and got my nails done then on Saturday night I had a party at home before venturing into town. Sadly, I haven't got wiser with age, drank my weight in wine and had to go home to bed before I'd even had chance to fling myself around a sticky dance floor to Chelsea Dagger. Sunday was consequently a complete write off but overall it was a really fun weekend.

One thing I've taken from turning 31 is trying to not get too hung up on age related expectations. A lot of my friends are now at the stage where they're getting married and having babies. All of that seems pretty far away for me again now and of course that plays on my mind from time to time. But I've learnt to just crack on, try to make the most of everyday and wait and see what the future holds. You never know what's around the corner.

So here's to 31. Hope it's a good one.

Blogtober - Day 6 - Pink Hair Don't Care

They say that your thirties are the decade in which you stop caring about what other people think about you, become more comfortable in your own skin and embrace your identity. Well I turn 31 tomorrow and am fully adopting that idea.

Today, as a little birthday present to me from me, I had my hair done and went a glorious shade of pink. I've always liked brightly coloured hair but never thought I could pull it off (still not convinced). But it wasn't my thoughts that worried me, it was other peoples. Would they think I looked daft? Like  was trying too hard? Mutton? Now, I think sod it. Life is too short to spend your time worrying about what other people think. The only feelings and opinions that matter are your own and those close to you. So now I have pink hair and I quite literally don't care!

Super quick blog post tonight as I'm heading out for a birthday meal with the family. Have you ever dyed your hair any crazy colours?

Blogtober - Day 5 - Finding My Mum Tribe

2017 hasn't been a great year for me but one of the more positive things to come out of it has been finding my mum tribe. That very term would have been something I'd have eyerolled at a few months ago but I feel it really does apply to us...we are all mums and we do have a tribe in the sense that we protect each other and have our own weird little customs that other people probably wouldn't understand. Sounds wanky, probably is a bit wanky...but true.

One of the mums in the tribe has been a friend of mine for years. In fact we played together as kids ourselves because our mums were also friends. We lost touch for a few years then reconnected when we fell pregnant at the same time. She introduced me to two of her friends and we all also met another mum on the school run. Over time our playground natters developed into play dates, coffee and nights out. Now a day rarely passes without us speaking in group chat or nipping in for a brew.

Here are just a couple of things I love about my mum tribe.

The kids
Thankfully our kids all get along amazingly and love spending time together. Naturally there's the odd tiff here and there but they genuinely have a great relationship and all play so nicely together. It's lovely to think that they are forming childhood friendships that will hopefully stand the test of time and give them good memories to look back on together. And it's lovely for us to bond and form relationships with each others kids too. My friend's little girl now tells me I'm her best friend (Jack gets a little huffy about this occasionally) which is so sweet.

The laughs
I tend to find that I gravitate towards people who can make me laugh and my mum pals certainly do that. Even if it is in some questionable making lewd creations out of party food (think what you can do with two scotch eggs and a cocktail sausage) to entertain one another at yet another child's party.

The support
Even now, five years on, I still doubt myself as a mother sometimes. It's nice to have like minded people to discuss your parenting woes and worries with. There have been so many times where one of us has crashed group chat with a 'OMG WHAT SHALL I DO?!' message if the kids are poorly/upset/throwing a batshit cray cray tantrum in Tesco. It's nice to have the opinion and guidance of other mums to help you figure out how to make it through the minefield that is parenting successfully.

The company
As humans we thrive from interaction with other people. It's nice to have someone to talk to in the playground or at a kids party. But this year my mum tribe have helped to take away my loneliness in other ways and that's something I'm truly grateful for.

Blogtober - Day 4 - The Ultimate Halloween Playlist

In last night's post I mentioned that we have a few Halloween parties penciled in for the end of the month. Two of these are children's parties. You know the kind - sweaty church hall, balloons popping,  hot dogs, lots of over excited children dressed as small demons fighting each other while off their heads on fruit shoots etc etc. Thankfully the third party (due to take place slightly earlier on the 14th) is an adult's only affair and I have been tasked with creating the ultimate playlist. This is what I've got so far:

Upon arrival (cool songs to entice the guests in)
Highway to Hell - AC/DC
I'm on fire - Kasabian
Bulletproof - La Roux
Shake Senora (from Beetlejuice)

Timeless classics (gimmicks and songs that nobody really likes that much anymore but it's the law to play them at Halloween)
Thriller - Michael Jackson
Ghostbusters theme tune
Timewarp - Rocky Horror Picture Show
Monster mash - Bobby Pickett

Bangers (for when the party is in full swing)
Disturbia - Rihanna
She-wolf - Shakira
The monster - Eminem
Tainted Love - Marilyn Manson
Poison - Alice Cooper

Winding down tunes (a polite way of indicating it's time to bugger off home)
I miss you - Blink 182
Ghosts - Laura Marling
I put a spell on you - Nina Simone
Stay - Shakespeare's Sister (because Cher Lloyd sang it on X Factor and it was proper haunting)

So there you have it, there's still work to be done and any other spooky themed songs you can think of would be gratefully received. I can see me milking this Halloween party theme during Blogtober...I've also been tasked with cocktail making but that can be another post!